We came up with the theme for our wedding and decided upon the DIY projects we're doing to support our theme. As I looked for tutorials I routinely searched for "inspiration boards" or "DIY projects." I quickly learned that depending on which blog you follow or site you watch, these labels can mess with your mind. You often have to read carefully to find out whether or not the images are from a real DIY wedding, a produced wedding, or a photo shoot. (Other brides such as Becca at A Los Angeles Love and Liz at Chic on the Cheap have remarked on this phenomenon as well so I realized I wasn't alone.) If you're not thinking about it, these images and words can induce undue stress.
Staged and "almost-too-good-to-be-real" images led me to write my Stop with the Perfection post with the full support of my FH. (I later cross-posted this post to a couple of wedding boards upon his suggestion.) When I wrote the post and hit Publish Post, I didn't know what response I'd get. Sure there were a few snarky responses, but most comments and feedback showed that I wasn't alone in my struggle with industry pressure for weddings to be perfect. Many of us are afraid of contributing to the consumerism of the wedding industry, of friends and family labeling us a bridezilla, and of not having our day "measure up." I'm glad that I shared my feelings; it opened up a great dialog with friends and relieved stress that I was inadvertently applying to myself for no good reason.
One community that I've grown to love and look to is WeddingBee.com. The reason? Real brides who are honest - they share what worked, what didn't work, and they talk about what most brides are feeling but afraid to express. Take for example, Miss Scissors' post two days ago, "I've Stopped Reading Wedding Blogs." When she wrote, "
Another term that seems to be associated with a line you shouldn't cross is budget. As most people don't talk about money, budget is an emotionally loaded label without tying it weddings. There were three blog posts about budget that I especially appreciated. One from Jessica at The Budget Savvy Bride was about the relative definition of "budget" based on where you live and where you're hosting your wedding. I like her focus on "savvy" and "how far you can make your money go or how to maximize the budget you're working with, rather than a specific price tag."